Independence is Dependence

the thing about reconditioning a man's mind is he's been wired for reward for things he ought be doing in the first place....and he expects it from a woman. I must be different. all I expect from a woman is a thank you and a smile for doing what I'm supposed to do in the first place. I should be treating you with respect, honor, and humility with a gracious attitude and merciful actions because that is how God treated me. it's not like I'm asking for dudes to get something ultra complicated.....you don't give a basketball player a bonus for doing what's in his job description. you give him a paycheck with his base salary. See men Black men especially have been conditioned to be rewarded for doing what men have been expected to do since the dawn of time. I don't have time to go down the list, but men have be emasculated over time by the way they were coddled by mothers who taught their sisters to be strong in every area that a man should be strong in. Thereby weakening the family structure and creating generations of physically strong, mentally inferior men. Men who cannot take setback, opposition, or even have thier own worth and value established independent of what the culture told them they should be. As this relates to God, the Willie Lynch Letter was a simple instrument of Satan used to weaken God's established family structure. This has lead to women walking away from men who have never been taught how to be men but have been taught how to seem like men. I cannot blame them one bit. A man just ought to be a man after God's own heart first, then you can really be a man. The whole independent woman mantra that has become a rallying cry of women all over the country is a flat out lie. Nobody is independent. We all depend upon God for our provision. Once you wrap your mind around that you begin to embrace this idea of interdependence. Men and Women depend equally on God for all things there is no true independence no such thing exists because whether or not you recognize God you do depend upon Him to draw your breaths and make your steps. Why do you think the functions necessary for life are not thought about with the active brain? It is the unconscious part of the mind that produces these reactions that produce life. If you were independent of God, you could rise when you thought it feasible and breathe when you desire to breathe. But since we are to lean on God for all things, this notion of independence is futile and imbecile at best. As far as male/female roles go, males are supposed to provide but it is not limited to simple physical financial needs. Men should lead the worship, men should lead the logical love......and men should lead when it comes to raising children as well. Another point. Men have stopped leading and started deferring to the women when it comes to raising children and they lack discipline as a result. Discipline should fall on both shoulders and when it falls largely on the woman's shoulders there is a imbalance there that cannot be corrected by her alone. Other men have to step in where the man has fallen short and help her pick up the pieces. I've seen it happen both ways.....but where Men do not lead, do not be surprised if Women pick up the mantle and lead. It's been happening and will continue to happen unless these "men" become Men of God.